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Suffering from public speaking anxiety? Here’s what others just like you, have to say about their fear.

26/2/2023

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​I have written this article for people who want to do something about their fear of public speaking but need encouragement to take that first step. 

Many people hesitate because they know that taking a course will require them to do the thing they dread. Often they worry that they will be the most nervous speaker there! 

Before starting a Fear-less public speaking course, I ask my clients to complete a  questionnaire. And I hear similar stories over and over. I want to encourage people to tackle their fear of public speaking by sharing some of these stories and using my client's words. 

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If You Are Avoiding Public Speaking You Are Not Alone  – But You Are Not Doing Yourself Any Favours.

28/9/2022

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I run courses for people with public speaking anxiety. In the pre-course questionnaire, 80% of participants say that they avoid public speaking if they possibly can. They turn down opportunities, get 'sick' on the day, ask others to step in for them, and even turn down jobs.

I am not suggesting that 80% of all people are actively avoiding public speaking. But I bet many of us have wriggled out of doing a presentation at some stage in our lives – I know I have!

 Here are a couple of the more heart-breaking comments I have had from clients.

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Your Fear of Public Speaking is Not the Problem – It is Your Fear of the Fear

20/2/2022

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“Overcome”, “conquer”, “kill”, “get over”, and “cure the fear of public speaking” are all terms that people google. I know – I have done the keyword research!

If you are anxious about public speaking, you probably see your anxiety as a big problem. You worry that others will notice your nerves, that your mind will go blank, and that your audience will judge you harshly.
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All this is understandable. But this article explains why seeking to fight, eliminate or fix the fear is unrealistic and counterproductive. It suggests other strategies, such as shifting your focus and adjusting your self-talk.

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Why avoiding public speaking is worse than doing it!  It is career-limiting, stressful, and harder than you think.

29/8/2020

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Verbal communication skills are valued by employers. They consistently rank highly on lists of the top "soft skills".  For example, the LinkedIn Learning 2020 Workplace report found that employers ranked "persuasion" as their number two soft skill requirement. And you can’t persuade without good verbal communication skills.

Public speaking is an important sub-set of verbal communication skills. But many people I come across,  tell me they actively avoid public speaking.

There is a great story about a child with a fear of public speaking in season five of Rita – a popular Danish Netflix show. It features the kind, quirky, socially awkward headmistress Hjørdis who is also one of the school’s two teachers.

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Is a Fear of Public Speaking Affecting Your Career? Why You Need to Act and What You Can Do.

27/7/2020

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A few months ago, I had a phone call from a young woman who needed help. Anna (not her real name) was a marketing graduate who had landed a great first job in the grocery sector. But she was suffering from anxiety because she was required to present to a corporate audience of more than one hundred people. The audience included members of the senior leadership team.

She explained to me that she had had a bad experience of public speaking at college. And it still haunted her. Apart from that one experience, she had done very little presenting. 

I discovered she would be presenting with two other more experienced people. I suggested that she tell them that she was nervous so that they could provide her with some support. But she couldn't do this, she told me, because everyone expected her to be excited about this "opportunity". Instead, she was full of dread!

Her story sounded familiar. Many years ago, I graduated with good grades but limited public speaking skills. Eventually, in my forties, I joined Toastmasters. But that was after twenty years of intermittent anxiety and avoiding public speaking at times. 

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How to act on your resolution to improve your public speaking – and three traps to avoid

14/1/2020

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Have you made a New Year’s resolution to ‘do something’ about your fear of public speaking? That’s fantastic! You won’t regret it. Read this article to find out how to keep this resolution!

You probably felt great (even euphoric!) when you made a decision that this is the year that you will tackle your fear of public speaking. But that feeling might be short lived as you realise you now have to do something….
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A New Year’s resolution is a promise to yourself to do something about an aspect of your life that you are not satisfied with. Statistics tell us that most of us do not follow through New Year’s resolutions. However, by staying focused and being aware of three traps, you can fulfil your promise to yourself.

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Feel the fear (of public speaking) and do it anyway!

13/4/2019

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Susan Jeffers' seminal self-help book “Feel the Fear and do it Anyway” was first published in 1987 . Its messages are just as relevant today and are highly applicable to fear of public speaking. According to a website dedicated to Susan’s work, she identified five truths about fear.  This article looks at how we might apply these to a fear of public speaking. ​

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How Susan Cain overcame a fear of public speaking to give a TED talk that has been viewed more than 25 million times

2/2/2019

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​Susan Cain, author and celebrated TED talk presenter, once had a crippling fear of public speaking. Her TED talk, The Power of Introverts, has more than 25 million views and is one of my all-time favourites.

I am also a big fan of Tim Ferris, and so when he interviewed Susan Cain in this podcast, I had to listen. The first 40 minutes is about her fear of public speaking. Her experience closely mirrors my own and that of many of my clients. 

Her main points she makes in the podcast are:
  • A particular event at school triggered her ‘almost lifelong’ fear of public speaking. 
  • The incentive to deal with her anxiety came from having something she cared deeply about and wanted to share.
  • She signed up for a course that used ‘gradual exposure’ to manage her fear.
  • She discovered that public speaking is a skill that can be learned.
  • She still feels nervous, but her nerves are now manageable (and didn’t stop her from delivering one of the most popular TED talks of all times!)
  • She discovered there is enormous benefit in developing public speaking skills. 
Let’s take a closer look at each of these. 

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How finding something important to say can boost your confidence.

10/7/2018

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While researching this topic, I came across a comment in an online forum.
“I put on my first parent seminar this week. I was so terrified I almost cancelled! But I got over myself because I know parents are a bit desperate about how to help their boys and girls build a strong, positive body image (in our weight-obsessed culture).”

I contacted Emma, who was behind this comment. She suffered from an eating order as a child. She now helps parents to ensure their children have a healthy attitude towards eating and body image. 

​Emma told me that she was making plans to cancel her seminar right up to just before it started! But she went ahead, and it was a huge success. 100% of the attendees signed up to follow her e-course. As she spoke, she felt her nervousness evaporate because she realised people were listening and engaged! 

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Using your nerves to enhance your public speaking performance

11/6/2018

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(Updated February 2020)
Wouldn’t it be great to be able to stand in front of an audience and feel calm and relaxed? Actually, that should not be your aim! While it might be nice to feel calm, the reality is that you generally perform better when you are a bit nervous.

Imagine you are an Olympic athlete turning up to the start of a race. Do you think that you will feel calm? Of course not. You will be very nervous and rightly so. Once more those nerves will serve you well as they mean your body is producing adrenalin that will make you run faster.

When it comes to public speaking something similar applies. If you are calm the chances are that you will come across as laid back but not particularly effective or dynamic. However, with presenting, being very nervous doesn’t serve you well either. When you start to show visible signs of fear such as shaking, sweating, or going red, you become focused on what is happening to you rather than what you are saying, to the detriment of your performance. 
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You want to hit that sweet spot, where a bit of nervousness gives you optimal performance. Remember that those nerves are a sign that your body is preparing to perform. You want enough adrenalin to enhance your performance but not so much that it starts to undermine it.  The Yerkes-Dobson Law explains this relationship between stress and performance and the corresponding 'inverted U' graph - where performance increases with nerves before sharply decreasing. 
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    Catherine Syme

    You will find around 70 articles here, mainly about public speaking nerves. These articles feature many of my clients and their stories about dealing with public speaking anxiety. 

    If you are interested in a course or one-on-one coaching, see 
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