I often have clients tell me that the reason they struggle with public speaking is that they are introverted by nature.
Most people assume that extroverts make better public speakers. They tend to be outgoing, sociable, and happy to talk. Introverts, on the other hand, are often portrayed as quiet, thoughtful, but less in the spotlight.
So the assumption is obvious: extroverts will shine on stage, and introverts will struggle.
My experience coaching hundreds of people tells a very different story.
The truth is that both introverts and extroverts can be engaging speakers, and both personality types can experience intense public speaking anxiety. The stereotypes do not hold up.
Let’s break down why.
The myth: introverts are not great at public speaking
This idea persists because introverts are often quieter in group settings. But that does not mean they are weaker communicators.
Introverts often become powerful speakers
They think before they speak
This leads to clarity, structure, and depth. Speakers who take the time to understand their message often deliver talks that resonate long after the extroverts have left the room.
They focus on connection, not performance
Introverts rarely try to “put on a show”. They care about meaning. When you stop performing and simply speak to people, you come across as authentic. Audiences love authenticity. One of the most memorable talks I have heard was from an artist client who was softly spoken but drew us in with his passion for art. His talk was riveting.
Their calm presence can be compelling
A quiet speaker who stands still, makes eye contact, and speaks with intention can hold a room effortlessly.
I remember a CEO in a place I once worked who spent most of his time listening rather than speaking – but when he spoke, he had everyone hanging on to his every word.
The overlooked truth: extroverts can feel just as anxious
People assume extroverts will be confident. Extroverts assume that everyone expects them to be confident. This combination can create enormous internal pressure.
Extroverts are not immune to fear
They can be deeply anxious
I have coached extroverts who are the life of the party, yet terrified of standing behind a lectern. Their social ease does not always translate to formal speaking.
Their natural spontaneity can backfire under pressure
When the stakes rise, extroverts worry about rambling or losing focus. The fear of “talking themselves into trouble” can be paralysing.
They feel they are “not allowed” to be nervous
This is one of the biggest challenges extroverts face. Because they appear confident in everyday life, they think nervousness means something is wrong with them.
Over the years, I have also had many anxious clients tell me that they are extroverted and so feel the pressure and expectation to be a confident speaker. These clients often tell me that their colleagues can’t believe that they experience anxiety.
So who makes the better speaker?
Neither. Or rather, both.
Introverts and extroverts simply bring different strengths and challenges. Personality does not determine your potential as a speaker. What matters is your willingness to practise, learn to manage nerves, and find a speaking style that feels authentic.
And who experiences public speaking anxiety?
Again, both.
I have seen introverts who shake uncontrollably and extroverts who shake uncontrollably. I have seen introverts who speak with enormous quiet authority and extroverts who captivate a room with energy. Personality cannot predict who will be confident, nor who will struggle.
What public speaking anxiety most often reflects is not who you are, but what you fear: being judged, losing control, not meeting expectations. These fears affect introverts and extroverts equally.
The real message
If you are introverted and assume public speaking is not for you, please let that idea go. Some of the most compelling speakers I know are introverts. Public speaking gives you an opportunity to be heard without having to force yourself into the limelight.
And if you are extroverted and feel ashamed of your fear because you believe you “should” be confident, let that go too. Nervousness says nothing about your personality or your potential. Just know that people are drawn to your energy, and if you tell stories, have fun, and fire people up, they will love you!
Whoever you are, confidence grows not from personality, but from practice, courage, and learning to trust your own voice.
